The Process of Overcoming Affairs

The Process of Overcoming Affairs by Peggy Vaughan 1. Accept the fact that it happened. This doesn´t mean "liking" it; it just means giving up focusing on " if only" and dealing with "what is." 2. Work to understand what happened in terms of the societal factors that contributed to it in order to overcome the idea that it´s ONLY due to personal failure. 3. Talk about what happened--not just for the sake of talking, but in order to move the process along--since hiding it reinforces the feelings of shame. 4. Deliberately focus on dealing with it. 5. Believe it´s possible to recover. 6. Allow time to heal. Time alone won´t bring recovery, but it does require time and patience to work through this experience.