Are You Doing All The Work: Part I

Do you find yourself doing everything you can to save your marriage? Do you feel like your spouse is contributing as much to the marriage as an old broken down car? If so, consider the following idea on how you can survive. First, don´t take all of the load on yourself. If your spouse is not going to help save the marriage you are working too hard. You can try and try, but until your spouse shows some effort you will continue to feel devalued and unloved. Until effort is shown by TWO people there isn´t much you can do except create an environment where your spouse doesn´t feel attacked when you ask them to make some effort to save your marriage. My suggestion for those who are carrying all of the load is to realize that you cannot make someone love you. The only thing you can control is how you treat them. Treat them with respect and dignity and expect the same in return.