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Q: How can I connect with my spouse?
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How Can I Connect With My Spouse?
Recently I have been contemplating a problem that many of my clients are having. The problem is connecting to their spouse and in some instances with anyone at all. These individuals feel like their spouse doesnīt care about them. As a result they become angry and agitated at their spouse. This often furthers the distance between the couple because this increases the conflict. Connection with a spouse requires two people who are willing to affirm the worth of each other. This takes a sincere effort of identifying individual needs and then discussing them with your spouse. It also requires that you understand your spouses needs. A deep connection takes time, understanding, affirmation of worth, a willingness to sacrifice, commitment and more. It can be obtained!
Why Canīt We Communicate?
Many couples tell me that they cannot communicate anymore. Often they indicate that they try to talk but they seem to end up arguing instead of solving their problems. Have you ever wondered why this occurs? I believe that this occurs because we either become defensive or we avoid talking about the problem because we know the outcome anyway. When couples ask me how to solve this problem I begin by asking them if they want to break this pattern. Most people say of course. Then I make the following suggestions. First, when you are discussing a problem take time to evaluate what you want to communicate before you respond. It is important to tell your spouse your real feelings, rather than what you think they want to hear or using a statement that is hurtful to them. Second, in your communication try communicating to your spouse that you care for them regardless of what the problem is that you are trying to solve. It is important for your spouse to know that you care for them. I have found that this is one of the valuable ways to solve problems. In summary, many couples cannot communicate because they arenīt honest in what they want to say and second they donīt let their spouse know that they really care for them.
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My birth date is February 18th 1974, 22:00. In the last year I have made relationships that can only be described as a "complete disaster!" Is there any possibility that I may find love/good relationship anytime soon??
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My fiance and I are getting married July 4. I am in the Marines stationed in Iwakuni, Japan. I still have a problem with telling my parents everything that my fiance and I talk about. I believe this originates from me being real close to my parents. This obviously really hurts her, because she feels she cant trust me. Is there anything I can do practice not telling my parents every little thing her and I talk about, or much less do. Thank you, John
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Worried about losing my marraige. We have had 5 domestic violence arrests in 6 months. A judge issued a no contact order. We really want to work this out through counsling, and stay together.His family now hates me and mine dislikes him. Everyone advises us to let go but we love each other. How.what can we do? The no contact is killing us.
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