Adding Some Spice to Your Married Life

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How can I show my spouse I love them?

Adding Some Spice to Your Married Life

Variety is the spice of life. I feel that marriages become complacent. Both parties feel that the chase is over,and once the marriage takes place,they no longer need to try as hard. Each person takes the other for granted. This happens with couples that experienced great relationships while dating. You often see couples split up,then get back together again. It's the old you never miss the water til the well runs dry syndrome.
I think the marriage vow starts us off on the wrong foot with til death do us part. It should be that I will stay with you,as long as you keep improving,and our marriage continues to grow. No employer says that you have your job forever,as you would not be motivated to perform well. What motivates a married couple that feels that someone is stuck with them til death. Prepare for everyday as your first date, anticipate that if your lucky, you may have a sexual encounter. We always feel that the other party will be available to take care of our needs.

How can you add spice to your marriage today? I bet you know just think about it.

   

Comments

10/27/2006 7:21:05 PM
Keith Ramsey said:

Your APPROACH to get someone to keep a marriage fresh undermines the safety and security in marriage; you can do both without undermining the other. One can look at their situation differently than "being stuck with them till I die". You can still "prepare for everyday as your first date" without thinking if your wife has a bad month or year I can dump her because companies dump bad performers all the time. I think your "advice" should be retracted as you are contributing the the consumer American mentality that thinks people and marriages are disposable.

Be motivated to "perform well" in different ways. Think of how you want to be loved, and use that as a motivator for loving your wife. Or think of how God loves you and how that can model from God can help you understand how to love your wife. There are lots of motivators out there; think a bit harder before you advise such destructive behavior.

Keith Ramsey
M.A. Pastoral Studies, Family Ministry




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