May 30, 2008, Newsletter Issue #227: Helping Children Adjust to Divorce

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Parents can help their children in the process of adjusting to divorce, if they follow the guidelines below. These guidelines are based upon advice from experts on family relations:

1) all the children should be told at the same time about the divorce
2) children should be told only as much as they need to know
3) children need to know that they have not caused the divorce
4) parents must emphasize the finality of their decision
5) arrangements for the childrenīs care should be carefully explained
6) children should be reassured of both parentsī continuing love
7) children should be encouraged to express fear, sadness, and anger
8) limits should be set on childrenīs behavior
9) parents should enlist the help of other adults
10) battling parents should declare a truce when they are with the children
11) children should not be used as weapons
12) parents must recognize the conflict between their needs and their childrenīs needs
13) childrenīs lives should be changed as little as possible
14) parents should use whatever resources they can find for themselves and their children

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